Trust and Honesty: How it Affects You

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All of us, at one stage or other, have experienced a situation in which we have found ourself not trusting another person. This could have been someone we have known for a while, built that trust, and because of some reason, trust was lost.

Unfortunately though, occasionally not trusting someone else also includes those we have known for a while. Doubts begin to creep into our thinking about their motivation and behaviour, and these can begin to have a major impact on the relationship, for our behaviour in relation to the other person will begin to be different. This is what’s happening for me right now.

It is interesting to note that when we find ourself not being comfortable with another person, regardless of the circumstances, we are not always able to articulate what this discomfort is about. What we experience is a strong gut feeling or hunch, which we are not able to explain. You will find your self not acting “normally” and you feel out of place. The way you talk, act, think will be different.

Not trusting someone means that we do not have full confidence in them and consequently we are not interested in pursuing a relationship with them. anymore or further. Even if the circumstances dictate we need to spend some time in their company, we might find ourselves very wary of them and limit how we engage with them.

So far the emphasis has been on the negative side of trust, or to be more precise, lack of trust. But what about when we do trust people? What happens to us when we trust people and what is different for us when we don’t trust people?

It would seem that when we trust someone, be it personally and/or professionally, we are willing to enter into a relationship with them. In a trusting relationship we are willing to conduct ourselves differently, engage in a wider range of actions, and also to be more open to a variety of experiences.

The degree to which we trust someone has a major bearing on the type and relationship we will form with them. Relationships are a fundamental part of our existence. In fact, a substantial part of our existence can be thought of as co-existence, as we live and work together with a range of people.

Much of our existence, and the quality of our living, is associated with the quality of our relationships. We exist within a network of relationships, and the quality of these relationships determines the sense of satisfaction, achievement, enjoyment and fulfilment we assess ourself to be experiencing. Much of meaning in life is bound up with our relationships and the associated experiences.

We learn through our experiences in both positive and negative relationships. Positive relationships provide much of what is important for us to have a meaningful existence, They provide the context to have conversations, and it is through conversations that we are able to accomplish important things, and to grow and learn together

Much of our suffering – be it individually, as a family, through work, or in general – comes from not having the relationships and conversations which are vital for us, and indeed, which we yearn for. Unfortunately, because of previous experiences, some people find it more difficult than others to develop trusting relationships.

Trust enables relationships to develop and flourish. When trust erodes, the relationship deteriorates. Doubts, which can creep into our thinking about the behaviour of the other person, can act like a poison and a cancer, quickly spreading to sabotage the relationship. Mistrust has a devastating impact on relationships and on the types and quality of conversations that will occur.

While trust is an indispensable component of positive and productive relationships, unfortunately it is something that can all too easily be taken for granted. We may only become aware of its importance when we feel trust has been broken.

May 2008 Trends

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Okay peoplez, so it’s been a long time since ive posted anything on this darn board. Ive been MIA because of drama and all this other crap. but that’s a okay since ive got some news to share with you. On May 30th, Sex and the city, the movie, is coming out. WIll Carrie and Big finally get married? who dies in the movie? oh, i cant wait.

now, on to the trends . lets talk about Gwen Stefani and her new fragrance line!!!!
What’s happening this September? Superstar Gwen Stefani is taking the fragrance world by storm with her Harajuku Lovers collection. Inspired by her and her four real-life backup singers (Love, Angel, Music and Baby), Gwen is making five different fragrances based on their diverse personalities and style. The bottle, according to WWD.com, will have the glass base holding the scent, and a doll crafted in the image of one of the five women. They’ll be reasonably priced (small bottles will retail for $25, the larger size on $45) so that fans can pick up more than one. Gwen’s also working on a new No Doubt album, a spring 2009 line for L.A.M.B., and oh, yeah, her second baby, due later this year. Whew!

Popular Hair: Whats in for April 2008

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Ok, so it’s good to be up to date on the trends and to be in the “now”. Of course, some people have to have the latest hair style, while others are just okay with being up to date on fashion.

As for me, I try to be updated on makeup, fashion, and the hair!

For April of 2008, below are the popular hairstyles I’ve pulled from Hairstyler.com.

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Make Me Beautiful Celebrity Hairstyles Part 2 For Round, Oblong, Diamond Shape Face

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I’ve gotten more emails about “how do you do the hair the way celebrities do? Can you show me?”  I will share with you what face shapes it the hairstyles look good on.

I’ve picked out some celebrity hairstyles form the 80th academy awards that I found were my favorite.

Diablo Cody:

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Perfect for

MEDIUM HAIR

Face: Oval, Oblong, Diamond

Time To Prepare: 30 Minutes

How to Get The Look: Blow Dry, Hot Rollers

Products to Use: Wax, Hair Shine

Marion Cotillard

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Perfect for:

THICK HAIR:

Best For:

Face: Oval, Oblong, Square, Diamond

Hair Type:  Medium to thick

Time To Prepare: 30-45 Minutes

How to Get The Look: Blow Dry and use a big curling iron

Products to Use: Mouse, Hairspray

Cate Blanchett

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Perfect For:

THIN HAIR:

Best For:

Face: Oval, round, square, heart

Time To Prepare: 30 Minutes

How to Get The Look: Blowdry hair and tie back. Make sure hair is loose in the front

Products to Use: Mousse, hairspray

Heidi Klum

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Perfect For:

THIN HAIR

Face: Oval, Round

Time To Prepare: 30 Minutes

How to Get The Look: Blow Dry, Hot Rollers

Products to Use: Mousse, Lacquer

I will post some videos on here about how to do it. I will show you, ok?

No worries, Joy’s here to the rescue. So, save my bookmark and keep checking this site. I will have more information on “How To’s”..I PROMISE!!!!

Peace out and enjoy the day!

Gwen Stefani’s LAMB 2008 Spring Fashion

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I love love love Gwen Stefani…and I have here her collection for spring 2008 fashion line.

Gwen Stefani’s fashion label LAMB has proved to become a staying force in fashion now and it’s even more apparent with this spring show. I gravitated more toward the feminine pieces especially this outfit above with the long gingham checked ruffle skirt, green sweater, and wide yellow belt and yellow oxford booties. Of course most of all the outfits coming down the runway were paired with LAMB bags.

Key Looks: school girl sweaters and skirts, 60’s siren, leopard prints, ruffles, wide belts, oxford booties.
Key Colors: plaids, black, white, yellow, green.

Here are some key pieces from the LAMB Spring 2008 Fashion Show:

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Slim Your Face W/ This Easy Ass Trick!

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Do you have a wide face with cheeks that stand out and you look like a bloated fish? Im just kidding. Well, I have that problem. But hey, you know, we’re all still very cute.

If you have a chubby face, its all good. Don’t even worry about it.
Just make sure that you don’t cut your hair short, which makes your face appear wider than it is, and one simple technique to slimming your face is a 5 letter word:

BLUSH!!!

  1. Purchase two shades of blush, one of a deeper shade and one that’s lighter. To ensure the shades go together, purchase a compact with two coordinating shades.
  2. Apply your usual foundation make-up or powder to cover any imperfections and even out your skin tone.
  3. Apply the lighter shade of blush in circular motions onto the apples of your cheeks… how are you to find them apples? Just smile!
  4. Next, following the line of your cheekbones, apply a sheer sweep of the deeper shade of blush.
  5. Blend, blend and blend. The key with this trick is to create dimension, but you do not want a very obvious demarcation between your natural cheek color and the blush (i.e. think racer stripes!).
  6. Sweep a small amount of the lighter shade across your nose and/or forehead as desired to add an extra “glow” to your complexion.
  7. I use Motives makeup to make my face appear thinner than it really is.

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This is Motives Sunset Bronzer, and I use it in the Summer time .

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And here is Motives loose blush powder. I wear this usually for daily wear. It gives my cheeks a beautiful glow and I feel more confident and radiant that my face doesn’t look all chunky. I love wearing this because it’s for sensitive skin and also the color blends in naturally with my skin.

    Why Guys Cheat…My take On It

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    Why Guys Cheat: Why Bad Guys Cheat and Good Guys Don’t

    One of the most painful experiences one undergoes in life is discovering your boyfriend or husband is a cheating guy. It becomes even more painful if you strongly care about, or deeply love, him. Why guys cheat is a question that demands a deep and introspective research and before we start we have to clarify what we really mean by cheating. Cheating to some people may be simple glances at a good looking woman as she walks down the street or thinking about that sexy looking number that is displayed on the calendar or thinking ‘if only I am single’.

    According to Womansavers.com, 22% of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives, 70% of married women did not know of their spouses’ extramarital activity, while another 3% of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse. In the year 1997, 22 percent of men admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past and 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.

    At what point a woman believes her partner is cheating on her, is largely dependent on her level of insecurity. A woman who lacks confidence, who does not feel good about herself and is full of insecurities, might become paranoid at the mere mention of another woman, while another who is full of self-confidence and is comfortable with herself and with her relationship is far less likely to get concerned with straying eyes and a meaningless comment.

    Before answering the question ‘why do guys cheat’ we need to understand as to what is normal behavior for a man. Can we get upset when a man enjoys a little flirtatious behavior or remarks on the good looks of super model if the act or comment hardly bears any substance? An innocent action that in no way impacts the way a man feels about his partner is harmless, it is how much he is and can be trusted to draw the line that matters.

    Some guys are just born to cheat and it is in their very nature to sample what is on offer. Such men are hard pressed to form a lasting relationship but it is usually apparent from the onset as to what type of relationship a woman is letting herself in on. For some men cheating is a way to boost their ego with each additional invasion it keeps on enhancing their ego to go for more.

    One of the most important factors that determines the difference between a good and bad man regarding fidelity is to take a look at his parents. Did he come from a loving family with monogamous parents as his example? It is a well-known fact that children learn by example, even if it is subconscious. Boys who are aware of their father’s infidelity, tend to eventually accept this behavior as normal, thus repeating the adulterous behavior as adults. The same goes for boys who witness their mother having affairs.

    So why do women continue to be attracted to the “bad” guys who cheat? Perhaps it is because they secretly wish to tame or change them. It is so important for women to understand that if a guy cheats on a woman, there is a very good possibility he will cheat on you. However, women frequently think that they will be the exception or that the man cheated because he had good reasons. Men always have good reasons for cheating so ladies, do yourself a favor and pass up the bad cheating guys for the good faithful guys. He may not always be as exciting and dangerous, but love and trust always outweigh danger and excitement in the long run.

    So ladies, have you ever been cheated on? And did you dump him right then and there? Lets take a poll….

    Ladies: The Truth About Men and What They Really Want In A Women!!!

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    Women often tell me that men confuse them and that they are unsure what a man is really looking for. They have tried to please them in the past and it hasn’t worked.

    Okay so what is a man seeking?

    • First of all a man is seeking a love-interest. This may surprise many women but men like to love and they like being loved in return. The problem is that many women come across as impassioned and cold. It is not easy to find a loving woman and it is very noticeable how many men try and hang on when they think they have found their Miss Right.
    • Men are seeking a woman who is attractive to them. Women may despair that men can be so shallow and that looks could matter so much but be careful. Men aren’t necessarily looking for a catwalk model and many men don’t like women who weigh 80lbs. But men do want a woman who takes pride in their appearance (though not excessively). Men are proud of having a girlfriend who looks good and I don’t believe any man who says otherwise.
    • Men are looking for a trustworthy girl, someone they can have faith in and someone who will be there for them. This may sound like an odd thing to say, but the fact is, some women are not trustworthy and many are not faithful either. So many in fact that men are increasingly wary. That kiss at a Christmas party may not count, or the flirtatious behavior with the gorgeous barman and in fact its all great fun and part of a woman’s character. But reverse the situation and as a woman, you hate him doing the same. A man can never forgive a woman being unfaithful and so he is looking for someone who he really does trust.
    • Men want to make a home eventually and are looking for a woman who will be a willing sharer in home life. Women with a sociable lifestyle are attractive because they can be relied upon to keep the social diary running in a long term relationship.
    • Men are seeking women who are feminine gentle and kind because deep down the qualities that make a woman a great mother are an attraction in themselves. I am not suggesting that the man himself needs mothering, though some do, it is more the point that men seek the attributes in women that point to someone who would make a great mother to future offspring.
    • Men want women with a great sense of humor. Women often come across as uptight or too bothered by too many small details. You will sometimes hear mention of a girl who is ‘one of the boys’. What this means is that she is able to fit in with their humor and is sociable and fun to be with. Such women are extremely attractive to many men. Men want to have a good time and relax when not working and so their ideal partners are women who are able to do the same.
    • Men are looking for women who retain their femininity and and are caring and kind. In recent years, aping men may be a female fashion statement, but it doesn’t make them attractive. Whilst every woman in the world burps and farts and has the right to drink pints of beer, it doesn’t necessarily attract them to the opposite sex. Women can get angry and say well men will just have to get used to it, but the issue is that they don’t. They can just choose not to go for women who act in the same way as their drinking buddies.
    • Men want someone who is supportive. Many women are quick to criticize men in their behavior, career and set about trying to alter them and mould them. This is a crucial mistake. Men can be manipulated yes, but they see their partnerships as support systems. The best relationships work both ways in terms of support. Where a woman is not able or willing to give that support and is too quick to criticize then she may lose her man.
    • Men don’t like angry women who shout. They want a woman who can debate and converse and is able to discuss. Communication is king. A fiery passionate temperament may have made you interesting and challenging on day one. But by day 500 it holds no glory whatsoever.
    • Men love a challenging woman, someone who keeps them on their toes. Men are generally lazy in relationships once they feel they’re in secure territory. When a man is challenged so he does something about it. If you want to keep your man interested, keep him challenged.
    • Men are generally more reserved about sex than women. This is my experience is a fact. Men know what they like in bed and tend to stick to it. The adventurous sexual appetite in most men isn’t there even if they are convinced it is. Men in reality are quite conservative. Sexually adventurous has nothing to do with having lots of partners and more to do with the things they will try with the same partner. In most test cases I have conducted, it is the man who looks for a quiet time in the bedroom and the woman who ultimately becomes bored.
    • Men want a woman who will commit to them. Though increasingly this is hard to find, it doesn’t take away the wish. Men want a girlfriend who they can share with and trust and be open with. Commitment is not a one way street and therefore men are struggling to find the levels of commitment they found previously. But the need is still there.
    • Men don’t want to be alone.

    This column can easily fire a great debate and I may be accused of being completely wrong but that is the beauty of opinions. We all have them. The fact is, a modern man is seeking a reliable, sexy, single girl with whom he can have a long term relationship with. He wants to have fun, share his life and ultimately settle down. There are a few long term bachelors but not that many. The problem guys have is that the world has changed. They don’t necessarily want to have children and settle down straight away, but it will come. They do seek self-respect even if they are not the primary breadwinner and they seek respect from their partner.
    As for me, I still haven’t found “Mr Right,” and I wish he would come around and sweep me in his arms, but till then, I will keep my head up and remember that the next guy that comes around that “tickles my fancy,” I will keep this in mind. 🙂

    Problem W/ A Round Face and Wide Nostrils??? Look No Further!!!!

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    No matter how much makeup used to cover the toughest of facial imperfections, there are some that even a great foundation will never change. You cannot change the the shape of your face. The shape of your face is one thing, without the help of a surgeon, that can not be truly changed by any sort of makeup tip. But, with a few secret strokes here and there, those troublesome spots may disappear in the light. Foundation is meant to cover the entire face and even the skin. But, by adding a few different shades of foundation to your daily makeup routine, you may be able to slim and tweak a few areas and no one will ever be the wiser.

    IF YOU HAVE A WIDE NOSE:
     The nose can sometimes appear a bit wider on camera or in person than it really is. In order to hide a wide nose, try adding a foundation that is three shades darker than your current foundation color. This darker foundation should be applied to the sides of the nose and blended into the face. This darker color will evoke a shading, of sorts, and slim the nose instantly.IF YOU HAVE A ROUND FACE:

     Just make the entire visage appear just a bit slimmer by applying this same 3 shade darker foundation, to the outer rim of the hairline. Dot a little under the cheek bones as well and blend with your normal foundation color. This too will cause a shading, resulting in a slimmer looking face.Just because you do not go under the doctor’s knife, does not mean you can not get an instant nose job and facial thinning. A darker foundation will work wonders to slim the nose and the face for the camera or for those who will have the pleasure of eying your visage.

    Make Me Beautiful Celebrity Hair Styles For 2008

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    Celebrities are in the spotlight nearly every day of their lives. It is up to them to set the trends of clothing, jewelry and hair in 2008. It seems that the celebs have spoken and the number one most chosen hairstyle for fine dress occasions in 2008 is going to be the pull back.The pull back hairstyle refers to any of a wealth of styles where long hair is pulled back to the neckline and captured in some beautiful hair piece. The focus of this style in 2008 with be asymmetrical and non conforming. With the sides of the hair straight and sleek, the back bun will be filled with ringlets of curls. What appear to be small wisps of hair framing in the face, will be purposefully placed there through a careful cutting technique.Hair jewelry will not play a huge part in hairstyles in 2008. It seems Hollywood is taking the green trend and applying it to hair styling, as well. Many pull back hair designs are featuring no hair jewelry at all. The hair seems only to hold itself, as if bound by nature itself.

    In 2008, celebrities will be wisping their hairstyles behind them and focusing on what is in front of them. Long hairstyles will be retained for many, with careful wisps cut to frame the face. Nature will abound and hair jewelry will disappear.

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